Do you want to get pegged? Then read on for some tips and advice for pegging sex tips. You do not have to be gay or a cuckolded male to enjoy being pegged.
What is Pegging?
There are some straight men that like anal play. Also some straight men that are into ‘pegging’. For the newbies this term alludes to ladies fucking men in the ass with strap-ons.
But it’s not just about strap-ons and there’s far more complexity involved within this. Just as intercourse should never be the be all and end all of hetero penetrative sex.
One sad point to move beyond is the idea that having fun with anal sex or any kind of anal play makes you gay. I have some sensitivity for this point and I feel both sympathetic and angry.
If you genuinely believe that enjoyment of any kind of anal sex or play must inherently make you gay, you are so far withdrawn from the realities of sex and sexuality that you can barely be criticized.
Pegging Sex Tips – It Doesn’t Mean You are Gay
There are still a tremendous amount of individuals who don’t have the faintest idea about the distinction between sex, or sex. Or sexuality, or orientation, or trans or bi or les or queer.
I need to acknowledge that a few individuals are going to take a gander at anal sex. And think “gay” on the grounds that that is the manner by which gay has been made open for so long.
I take it from this point of view. Being gay is something that exists in your psyche. Not everybody who is gay likes or takes part in anal sex.
Enjoying anal sex/play implies that you’ve had nerve endings animated and you then experience joy.
‘She enjoyed it more psychologically – the idea of being a ‘male’ and fucking and I enjoyed it more physically. Prostate stimulation is intense and orgasmic’
What this comment reveals is two things
First the woman’s interest and secondly his own interest. The female interest in this comment comes from the idea of flipping the gender in order to become a boy. Kind of like imagining what you’d do if you had tits for a day.
It’s about seeing what the other side does and then living up to that fantasy. For the female, in this story, it’s about her penis-envy. This is her psychological enjoyment. The empowering feeling of being a ‘male’ and acting that out.
His liking towards pegging is about the physical enjoyment, the physical feeling of being fucked. He doesn’t mention about being fucked by a girl, nor does he want to be fucked by a guy. He merely comments that the act of being fucked is enjoyable.
That doesn’t make him gay.
He goes on to state
‘Letting my girlfriend fuck me in the ass didn’t make me feel any less masculine or her any less feminine. But it did allow me to feel a vulnerability that I’d not felt before’
This comment of his is revealing that he didn’t feel any less of a man for being fucked. Sure, pegging is not everyone’s cup of tea. But it as extension on anal play that can be fun and exciting for everyone involved.
If you’re interested in pegging there’s a few things you’ll need to consider.
Pegging Sex Tips – Start Slowly
As with any introduction to a new form of sexual play, you’ll need to bring it up with your partner first and slowly introduce the idea into the bedroom. If you’re both already into anal play this introduction should be a relatively smooth transition.
Otherwise you’re going to have to start from the basics of anal play. Once you’ve covered that, you’re ready to move onto selecting a strap on.
Pegging Sex Tips – Picking a Strap On
For a first strap on there’s two main things you’ll need to consider.
Firstly, your comfort. Secondly, her comfort. There’s nothing worse than getting a strap on you can barely fit in your ass and keeps falling off her every time she thrusts.
You both need to enjoy this and therefore you’re both going to have to find something you both like.
Think of it like this.
Your girlfriend has picked out lingerie that she feels comfortable and sexy in VS you’ve picked out ill-fitting lingerie that she hates and is never going to feel attractive in it.
A toy is only half the battle
The rest of the battle lies in one’s ability to feel confident and sexy with their new ‘tackle’.
There are two types of strap ons you can consider. Actual strap ons with straps or strapless strap ons like the feel doe range.
The feel doe range is one of the very few strap ones that provide stimulation for both the wearer and their partner. It is inserted vaginally and is held there by the pelvic floor muscles.
You’ll need to make sure yours are up to scratch. It vibrates for pleasure on both parties.
This type of model is quite pricey though and as mentioned, you may need to invest in some Kegal balls if your muscles aren’t up to scratch.
What Chastity Device Should I Buy When Starting Out?
When you’re first beginning out you might want to invest in something simple like the love rider range in the above photo. The love rider range has vibrating functions, a soft belt and the attachments are generally standard cock sized!
It is the ideal beginner toy especially if you’re on a budget.
What’s even better is that the attachment on this is made of a silicone which is prefect for anal play and for safe and hygienic anal play. Once you’ve finished using it as a strap on, sterilise it or whack a condom over it and use it as a standard dildo!
I’m all for versatility.
Should You Create A Dungeon or Pleasure Room in Your Home?
For a lot of people who are into the kink scene, the idea of having a place in their own home devoted to practicing their preferred brand of BDSM or other sexual activities can be something very appealing.
But actually getting to the point of having your own dungeon can be a fairly big commitment.
Of course, there is more to the decision about whether you should convert a space in your home into a sex dungeon or pleasure room than whether or not you have the space available to begin with.
So assuming you do have a place, whether it’s a spare room, a basement, a loft, or perhaps even your bedroom, what else is there to consider when choosing whether or not to do it?
Are You Going to Benefit From It Enough?
Are you considering becoming a professional dom or dome? If so, then naturally, the answer will be yes, as you will be able to use the facilities you set up to see clients at home.
But if this isn’t something you are planning to do. And you don’t want to use it to host things like BDSM parties, then you’ll need to evaluate whether your personal demand for a dungeon will make it a good use of space.
If you are living a lifestyle where you would use the dungeon a lot, then it could make a big difference to the things you can do at home and enhance your experiences.
But if you only tend to indulge in these kinds of activities from time to time, or only with people you don’t see very often, then it may be better to instead invest in some things you can bring out when needed. Rather than having a permanent sex dungeon.
Will It Cause You Any Problems?
If you hardly ever have anybody over who isn’t already appreciative of your interest in BDSM, then there’s nothing to worry about.
But having a room in your house that you don’t want family members to see or non-kink friends to ask questions about can be stressful. As can having a bedroom that has a clear ‘sex-dungeon’ look to it if you’re prone to having guests.
While it’s probably not worth worrying about what a random electrician might think in an emergency. If it is going to be stressful for you keeping your mother who comes over every week from nosing in your dungeon, the hassle of it may not be worth the positives.
Kitting Out Your Dungeon
Let’s assume you’ve decided that your potential dungeon will get enough use to make it a good use of space and won’t make your home life stressful. If so, the last thing to consider is the investment.
At this point, there’s no reason not to have a dungeon, but you should probably put some thought into your budget for it and how to get the most out of it in terms of aesthetics and functionality.
Look at options and prices for things you’d like to include. For instance, if you’d like to add a swing to your sex dungeon and consider also any other furniture or decoration you’ll want to create a tone you like.
Remember you can always add things over time, so focus on the things you’ll use most first.
Look around online for pictures of other people’s dungeons to get an idea of the different and unique styles that can be created. You can also take inspiration from clubs and other venues.
Or from other aesthetics that fit with your particular style of BDSM (for instance, actual historical dungeons, or luxurious sex clubs).
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